I may have raised my voice. I may have asked them both to hang on.
I did raise my voice. I did ask them both to hang on.
I was a bad Mama. I knew it and I couldn't stop it.
The laundry needed to be folded and put away; another load was waiting. I didn't have time for blocks or reading books.
I may have chosen my phone over "The Very Busy Spider."
I did choose my phone over "The Very Busy Spider."
I was a bad mama. I knew it and I stopped it.
The next tug I felt on my leg made me pause.
My perspective changed when I got on his level; it always does. I suddenly had time.
I thought I was supposed to be the teacher?
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Linking up with Mama Wants This and These Little Waves for Memories Captured.
Oh sweetie, they teach us so much, our children.
ReplyDeleteThank you for linking up with Memories Captured, Sam!
Great picture! I'm sure you are glad you made the time - funny how they teach us things when they aren't even trying!
ReplyDeleteYes, this. Exactly this.
ReplyDelete(Lovingly done, and a perfect reminder.)
Love this, girl! (so much)
JDaniel is teaching me more and more things everyday!
ReplyDeleteAwww... I think the simplicity in children teaches us more than anything else. They teach us to pause. To be silly. To smile. To laugh.
ReplyDeleteKids really do take the time to appreciate simple things in life. I know I'm going to try and listen to Jackson more often.
DeleteHow incredibly sweet and true. I'm only 4 months in, but dang have I learned so much.
ReplyDeleteIt only gets better!!!
DeleteThey sure do teach us all the time! It truly is amazing.
ReplyDeleteAww. Love the dogs in the picture, too. Your furbabies too!
ReplyDeleteExactly!!! They all wanted to share a snack with Mama!!
DeleteOne of the tags I use on my own blog is "my children are better teachers than I am" because of moments just like this. Love your captured memory! Balance is hard, but you're doing a great job.
ReplyDeleteThat's an awesome tag! That day I wish I would have listened sooner.
DeleteIt is crazy how much we learn from our children, patience, love, finding or making time..
ReplyDeleteThis is awesome. Love the change in perspective!
ReplyDeleteWhenever I get down on his level I always realize those things I was rushing to do are not as important as I thought. We should all take that time! I'm gonna try!
DeleteThis is lovely, and also a struggle that we all share. But having to make difficult decisions like this every day and when the choice doesn't always involve your kid does not make you a bad mama. We all have to balance our kids and chores and everything else in between. Some days are better than others that's for sure.
ReplyDeleteShouldn't we get points for trying? ;-)
Points for everyone!!!
DeleteI think you echo what a lot of feel.
ReplyDeleteTime is a big thing, and sometimes we need some for us, but it is hard and we feel guilty when we take some.
Great post.
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ReplyDeleteHi! I just found your blog through Natalie at From Corporate to Domestic. I love this post, because it is too true that sometimes we get caught up in the mundane and forget what is really important. We all do it. I love the photo, and I can't wait to learn more about you and your journey! :)
ReplyDeleteHi Carolina! Is Natalie not great?
DeleteThanks for visiting and I hope to "see" you again!
Oh I love this. I find myself in the same predicament. I'm constantly having to remind myself to just stop. I love the way you did the photo!
ReplyDeleteYou were not a bad mom. Do not judge yourself poorly. There are other things that do deserve to hand that badge to someone and you are not one of them. I have been there lately, betweeen a screeming baby and a childish mom who behaves like my toddler at the same time and really, I just want to yell with them too. Sometimes, I just do to my mom since she should, you would think, understand better than the toddler.
ReplyDeleteHowever, it was great that you were able to change your approach to the things around you.
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You are so right; they teach us so much.
ReplyDeleteYou were not a bad mom. Sometimes needing a moment to ourselves makes us a better mom. We're in the trenches everyday! But at the same time, yes, they do teach us so many things.
ReplyDeleteThat is so true!
ReplyDeleteHaha, right now my kid is teaching my that life is all about keeping other people on their toes. ;) That picture is adorable, Sam. I don't know who is cuter, the baby, the puppies or YOU!
ReplyDeleteMaking me blush over here!!
DeleteWhat a beautiful moment to be able to sit and just be for a few minutes. Lovely photo.
ReplyDeleteSuzy {visiting from Memories Captured}
.. and they never will stop teaching us, I'm sure ;)
ReplyDeleteSo true. Like you, I've been focused on the "to-do" list too often (especially when I'm a student). This morning, I took my girls to the park... wandered around the path with them... sat by the beach... just enjoyed the sunny day and the fun they were having. I need to do that more. They help me to appreciate the little things like that. :)
ReplyDeleteAnd don't the days just turn out better when you spend time with them and enjoy them? I always find myself more relaxed whenever I take that time to just be with my son.
DeleteTHAT I had to pin!
ReplyDeleteWe need to stop more often ... the moments tend to be fleeting!
This is the link to my Captured Memory btw
since otherwise you end up on the landing page and its over on the homeschooling side ;)
http://homeschool.bywordofmouthmusings.com/2012/04/captured-memory-ten/
Love this. I find it so hard to say I "was" a bad mom when I chose the phone or the have to tasks over them but it really is freeing to be honest. We aren't perfect for sure but it's moments like this when we choose to stop and bend down and get dirty just to se the joy in their eyes that makes such a huge impact in their lives.
ReplyDeleteI hate when I realize I've been a bad mama, but it always makes me a better mama. Get down on their level? SO true.
ReplyDeleteYou are NOT a bad mama! You really have so much on your plate right now and sometimes it's okay to choose your phone over the Very Busy Spider.
ReplyDeleteI know from reading your words and following you on IG that you spend so much of your day taking care of others, so don't be too hard on yourself.
Also, I loved this picture and the idea of getting on the floor with your babies in order to spend time away from all the other things you "need" to be doing.